Murder At The Border

Sorry it took me a little while before I decided on this blog. I was trying to decide what to blog about. I went out Saturday night with my husband and some friends. I have a friend who is mexican. He is the general manager of the El Charro's here in Lamar, MO. He was telling me about a decision he was going to have to make. He said that he and his dad live here in the U.S.A. and the rest of his family live in Mexico. No he is not an illegal immigrant. Anyway, he said that his mother is very ill and that he usually calls to check on her once a week. He said that he has been calling several times a week now because he has spoken to his brothers over in Mexico and they told him that his mothers health has really gotten worse. Antonio is trying to decide if he should go down there and see her or to just wait a little while longer. He is worried that if he doesn't go now, then his mother will die before he gets to see her one last time. He says he would go, but the reason he is worried about traveling is because of the problems going on at the border. Antonio has a wife and a 2 year old daughter. If he were to go to Mexico he would have to bring them with him. He is worried about all the murders happening at the border, especially because he will have his 2 year old with him when he crosses. I asked Antonio why his mother didn't just come to America with him and his dad. He said that he tried to get his mom to come with them, but she and the rest of their family refused to leave because that is what they call "home". I understood right away what he meant: "Home is where the heart is". I then asked Antonio why he decided to move here. He said that he was tired of seeing the pain and suffering that it took for his family to survive there. He said the opportunities and the way they are treated are much better in America than in Mexico. He said he would never make his mother leave a place where she wanted to be, so he left and sends them money and helps them any way he can when he can help them. He explained to me that this was his home and Mexico was his mother's home. I feel sorry for Antonio, because even though I know he badly wants to see his mother, I know that he also needs to protect his daughter and wife. A lot of the murders on the border are about women. Women are murdered daily at the border. Another big problem and main factor in the murders are the gang problems. The death rate at the border is expected to be doubled this year as opposed to last year's murder rate. The gang problems and murders are on the rise this year. The murders are starting to affect everyday innocent bystanders. There were two innocent boys that were murdered just in this last week while they were at a car dealership.  I understand Antonio's dilemma. In my opinion, I don't think he should risk taking his family there. I am scared to death just thinking about it. I'm sure his worries on the matter are way worse than mine. I understand that nobody really likes the fact that these illegal immigrants come over here illegally and take our jobs and other privaliges, but I chose to blog about this matter because I think that everyone needs to understand the horrors that these people are trying to escape from. I do believe that they need to come over here in a legal way, but Antonio explained to me that it isn't so easy for some as it is for others. I feel sorry for the horrors that those people have to face over there. I understand why they want to come here, because it's better here than over there. I also believe that the law is the law though. We all have to obey it no matter the circumstances. It sucks and its a cold cruel world sometimes, but my father always told me that what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. God has a plan for everyone. We may not like the plan he gives us, but he has a plan for everyone for a reason. I don't think it's right to question God's motives, no matter how unfair life seems sometimes. I hope that Antonio figures out the right choice for him and his family. I really believe its up to him, and only him, to decide what is the right decision to do about his family situation. I just hope that if he decides to go to Mexico, that no harm comes to him and his family on his trip. I hope he and his family arrive home safe.